A good friend I met in July – holla at Beth Derrick!! – recently asked her Facebook family for their thoughts and experience in dating/relationships. I wrote out my answers not realizing the entirety of it would be posted on her blog. Which meant I wrote as if only Beth was going to see it. Which meant I was probably a little more matter-of-fact and raw.
It explains the 3 second pause before hitting Send. I really wondered if I should bring it down a notch. You know, seem more cultured or ladylike or kind. Like… not me. Hahaha.
But you know what I love the most about people? When they’re straight up with me. And you know what I’ve found out people love about me and my writing? That I’m straight up.
That said, here are my unfiltered answers in all their glory on her blog and here are some excerpts. Note to Beth – thanks for the awesome questions! Love what you’re doing!
+ What are your fears & concerns about dating and relationshipping? – That I have to give up some of my freedom. (continues…)
+ Do you view marriage as a destination or a journey? – Marriage is an option, therefore, not a destination. (continues…)
+ If married, how much work does it take to maintain and happy and loving relationship with your spouse? – Not too much. It will definitely require communication and hard conversations here and there. But then, I have this thing where, if things get too hard with the person, I’m pretty down to separate. Nothing is worth my happiness and freedom. I think a truly fruitful and divinely appointed (haha so woo-woo, I know) relationship is one where both partners understand their needs and preferences in relation to the others’. And that we’re all one, and therefore not fighting for what’s “mine”. If we can live in that space, then it really shouldn’t take work beyond the process of getting to know each other, which happens over time.