I got a bone to pick.
A small one.
A little teeny tiny one.
But one that’s been digging into my side for a bit.
Like a few years.
This bone has to do with people’s perspectives on millenials.
A few days ago, as I was waiting for my food to heat up in the office kitchen, I had the misfortune (or fortune) of overhearing a conversation that went like this:
Dude 1: Did you hear about Ray?
Dude 2: No, what about him?
D1: He’s been at his new job for six months now and he’s asking for a raise – already.
D2: Oh what~
D1: Yeah, that’s what I said… man, these millenials. They don’t know how to work hard, to put in their dues. They just expect things to go their way and that’s it.
D2: Ah yeah, I know what you mean. These kids don’t know what responsibility is. They don’t know how to put in their time.
The conversation continued in the same vein, different topic:
D2: My daughter (who sounded like she’s about five y.o.) doesn’t even want to play outside, she’s always on the phone.
D1: Yeah, there’s something wrong with these millenials and young people. When I was young, I only wanted to go play outside. It was a punishment to stay inside.
D2: I know, me too. I loved going outside.
D1: Yeah, I would do anything to play; these millenials are messed up.
I stood there, by the microwave, in the middle of their conversations, pretend-watching the TV, with half a smile on my face.
I wanted to punch Dude 2 in the face, because he looked just a few years older than me.
I will be honest, I felt a little indignant.
Couple things come to mind.
1. If there were no such things as the technology we have today, we would probably be playing outside. We would probably be living very differently. But we’re not. These gentlemen are speaking to differences in circumstances, priding themselves based on their environment, and judging others’ characters based on ours. They’re on their high horse talking shit on something they have no idea about. Do they know what it’s like to grow up with technology everywhere? No, they don’t. And so, their conversation has no foundation.
2. Who put the phone in the hands of their children? Who stationed the TV in the living room? Enough said.
3. The current state of this time is a direct product of our earlier generations. A. Direct. Product. Politics, culture, society, values. Everything. Are they wanting something better for the younger generations that they did not have the wherewithal to create space for?
4. Millenials are highly responsible – to themselves. I think older generations have a hard time understanding this concept. They feel responsible to external circumstances and conditions i.e. family, career, finances, religion, etc. Not to say that these are not important, but truly, IMO, to live a good life that affects others positively, one’s greatest responsibility is to self. The shift in thinking and perspective may look like selfishness and ungratefulness. But do we truly have any control over anything except who we are, what wants to flow from our lives? And is it not our responsbility to know the truth within and to live out our destinies? No matter what it looks like?
There’s more, but that’s it for now.
Just had to get that off my chest.
And honestly, I can’t really blame those men or anyone else.
It’s a difference in perspective.
And they will see what they want to see.
Just as I see what I want to see.
And I see magnificence and power and strength and courage and wisdom in my generation, just like the older generations.
I’m just saying, if you want to talk shit, it’s probably because you don’t have the whole picture.
That’s been my experience.